The idea of people abandoning their parents in nursing homes never made sense to me as a child. Why wouldn’t you want to look after your own parents, after all? Isn’t it part of our culture to value familial ties? So, why would anyone consider an old-age home as a viable option?
I had a lot of questions. But as I grew older, I began to see things from a new perspective. Which made me realize that senior adults may find that old age homes are the safest location for them.
There will be circumstances when individuals have no choice but to relocate to senior living facilities. As an example, if their son is either abroad or in a different state. With the rising crime rate, it is safer to be in a group than it is to stay alone. Let’s imagine an elderly couple only has a married daughter. Now, as much as the daughter would like to look after her parents, many parents will be hesitant to stay with their daughter once she marries.
Both men and women try to meet the requirements of the family in this ever-changing world. As a result, their parents spend the majority of their time alone at home. And, let’s be honest, it can’t always be safe.
Some people want to live in an old age home because it allows them to be self-sufficient. They enjoy living as part of a community and feel safer and happier there.
So, now that we understand old age homes aren’t all horrible, what should you know before allowing your parents to enter one?
Sending our parents to an old age home, regardless of the circumstances, is undoubtedly one of the most difficult decisions we will ever make. That is why, before sending them to one, you should complete your homework.
You can find all of the answers you need on the internet. There are also some websites, such as Just dial, Three Best Rated®, that can provide you with a list of trustworthy old age homes in your city.
Always keep in mind that your parents’ comfort comes first. So, before you make any decisions, take them to your house and see if they are at ease in that setting.
We all have hectic schedules. It can sometimes be difficult to find time to call or see your parents. Even if they have a large group of people surrounding them, they would expect to speak with you. As a result, make time for them. Even a five-minute phone call could brighten their day.
“Out of sight, out of mind,” they say. Just because your parents have chosen to live in an assisted living facility does not imply they do not wish to participate in family activities or vacations. Take them with you anytime you attend a wedding or any other function and take them on vacation with you.
Though it is difficult to accept, it is occasionally acceptable to allow elderly persons to remain in nursing facilities. And it’s past time for us to accept it. The fact that someone is moving their parents to an old age home does not imply that they do not love them.
-Aditi Jain
Jaipuria Talks Blog 
Any big change in lifestyle require a huge emotional adjustments. In my opinion, moving our elder ones into old age homes does not discard our love for them. Under some circumstances, it is better for them to be in constant company of people of their own than being alone. In that case too , you can look after your elders and can also take them with you to roam out.
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This shift is thinking is fresh change from the usual fact wherein we this relocating of elderly people as a horrible thing. parents and child have a beautiful relationship but sometimes the circumstances are too difficult to manage. rather than just for the sake of not being called out as a bad child , and both the parties suffer at their end. It’s better to be practical. But regular meet ups should be there. Parents though not living with their family , should never feel that they are on their own. As you get older , you require people around you.
also , this is not the only case, there are some people who just shy away from fulfilling their responsibility and they should be reprimanded for the same.
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This shift in thinking is fresh change from the usual fact wherein we this relocating of elderly people as a horrible thing. Parents and children have a beautiful relationship but sometimes the circumstances are too difficult to manage. rather than just for the sake of not being called out as a bad child , and both the parties suffer at their end. It’s better to be practical. But regular meet-ups should be there. Parents though not living with their family , should never feel that they are on their own. As you get older, you require people around you.
also, this is not the only case, there are some people who just shy away from fulfilling their responsibility and they should be reprimanded for the same.
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It’s not about what they need – it’s about what you can provide.
If you can stop working and still be financially sound and you have training in geriatric care and you love your parents – then yes, abandoning them would be wrong.
If you have a family and you can’t stop working (to dedicate sufficient time on their care) and you don’t want your parents to be on your own (vulnerable, in need of care, and prone to accidents without supervision), then you should find someone to provide that care for them.
Not everyone has capacity to care for their ageing parents, and this is when they find care for their parents.
In the end, it’s the outcome that matters.
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