EFFECT OF DOMESTIC VIOLENCE ON ONE’S LIFE

Do you know that 1 in every 3 women in India has faced domestic violence in her life? 65% of men believe that women deserve to be beaten up and should tolerate violence to keep family together. A high number of women perpetrators are also arrested for violence against women. The abusers are mostly in-laws of women who have been harassed.

Domestic Violence as it is a very common word. We listen to many cases in our day-to-day lives. We think that domestic violence consists of beating or hurting females, but it also contains honor killing, acid attacks, female infanticide, sexual assault, emotional abuse, and dowry-related abuse and death. We talk about the reasons behind such violence, what are the causes, and how we can prevent domestic violence. But have we ever imagined what the effects of such violence on the victims are? Even though the perpetrator gets the punishment, even then, the trauma of such violence is still there in the victim’s life. 

Sometimes we think that the reason for domestic violence must be socially backward areas or illiteracy, but deep down, we all know that these are not the reason for violence. It is not like domestic violence happens only in rural towns, and cities but it happens in metropolitans as well. We all must have come across some such cases. Domestic violence causes disturbance in the mental health and life quality of women. Also, exposure to violence increases the use of medical services in these women. But most importantly it leaves with mental trauma for a lifetime.

Do you know how the perpetrator justifies himself/ herself? Here are some examples:

You should know when I’m angry, and you should not provoke him

Every couple fight, I hurt you because I love you (This line is from the recent Bollywood movie “Darlings”)

You should tolerate it as it is my right to raise my hand to you

I was drunk. That’s why I did that

And many more, they justify their actions with absurd reasons.

I have recently come across a case of domestic violence, which left my heart shattered. A close person of mine had faced a case of such violence, and when I saw her condition how there were scratches on her body and a swelled-up arm. At that moment, I realized that no matter who you are, whether he/she is educated or not, mentally stable or not, no one has the right to treat anyone like that. That incident left her shattered and traumatized. She is not able to sleep, and if anyone accidentally touches her or raises her voice in front of her, it again triggers the same thing, and she starts crying. Now that trauma is left with her for her whole life. But yes, she is trying to recover and be stable again.

I came across an inspirational quote which is for the victims of Domestic Abuse on Google. Here it says,

Your life matters!

You can’t change the way someone treats you,

But you can change how you react to it

Dig deep inside for the inner strength 

To break free from this abuse.

YOU DESERVE BETTER

You don’t always need a plan 

but you do need courage and trust in yourself.

You can do this!

Break the cycle

Speak up and get help.

– ISHIKA JAIN

7 thoughts on “EFFECT OF DOMESTIC VIOLENCE ON ONE’S LIFE

  1. It takes a lot of courage and strength to express your opinions out loud on public platforms, kudos to you for writing on this topic. Well nobody can’t understand the feeling of a person who goes through this tough time.
    I loved your blog because you addressed the other kind of acts of violence faced by women, acid attacks and violence at home being the most common. It shook me when I read that 65% of males find it OKAY to raise their hands on women.
    As women, we should support each other rather than be each other’s enemies.

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  2. It’s fantastic that you selected such a powerful issue for your blog because most individuals have experienced domestic abuse but are not comfortable talking about it. Most people will be able to connect to your blog and will get the confidence to discuss it with their closest friends and family because it is critical to speak up in such circumstances. I truly appreciate your efforts in writing this blog.

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  3. You’ve covered the often-debated topic of “Effects of Domestic Violence on One’s Life” on the blog. By recounting a personal story, you directly addressed domestic violence against women and attempted to make people aware of its seriousness. The part of your blog where you talked about how a close friend of yours was traumatized and the victim couldn’t sleep for days and now reacts frightened to even light touch was painful to read. I wholeheartedly agree with the justifications you said that offenders use to justify their behavior. Your blog finishes with some courageous and encouraging remarks, and I must compliment you on how skillfully you persuaded domestic abuse victims to speak up and get help.

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  4. You’ve covered the often-debated topic of “Effects of Domestic Violence on One’s Life” on the blog. By recounting a personal story, you directly addressed domestic violence against women and attempted to make people aware of its seriousness. The part of your blog where you talked about how a close friend of yours was traumatized and the victim couldn’t sleep for days and now reacts frightened to even light touch was painful to read. I wholeheartedly agree with the justifications you said that offenders use to justify their behaviour. Your blog finishes with some courageous and encouraging remarks, and I must compliment you on how skilfully you persuaded domestic abuse victims to speak up and get help.

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  5. You’ve covered the often-debated topic of “Effects of Domestic Violence on One’s Life” on the blog. By recounting a personal story, you directly addressed domestic violence against women and attempted to make people aware of its seriousness. The part of your blog where you talked about how a close friend of yours was traumatized and the victim couldn’t sleep for days and now reacts frightened to even light touch was painful to read. I wholeheartedly agree with the justifications you said that offenders use to justify their behavior. Your blog finishes with some courageous and encouraging remarks, and I must compliment you on how skillfully you persuaded domestic abuse victims to speak up and get help.

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  6. You’ve covered the often-debated topic of “Effects of Domestic Violence on One’s Life” on the blog. By recounting a personal story, you directly addressed domestic violence against women and attempted to make people aware of its seriousness. The part of your blog where you talked about how a close friend of yours was traumatized and the victim couldn’t sleep for days and now reacts frightened to even light touch was painful to read. I wholeheartedly agree with the justifications you said that offenders use to justify their behaviour. Your blog finishes with some courageous and encouraging remarks, and I must compliment you on how skilfully you persuaded domestic abuse victims to speak up and get help.

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  7. Actually it requires a very sound and mature mind to be able to write about a sensitive topic like – Domestic violence. I really appreciate your efforts for representing this topic with such grace and understanding yet not hiding the harsh reality of it. I had previously read some articles related to this issue, But the way it is written here is very articulate and effective. I would recommend others also to read this blog. As a woman, I am aware of the harsh reality but this blog motivated and inspired me to look after my loved ones and make sure that it should not happen around me.

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